Apparently the modern 5th anniversary gift is silverware. So Dave and I went out to dinner and USED silverware to, you know, eat our fancy food. Because who buys each other silverware for an anniversary? Although...in the midst of my mocking I realize that we could use a nice set of casual flatware. And I wouldn't turn down a silver tea set.
Anyway, Dave and I celebrated our 5th anniversary on May 1. So I want to ignore novel-writing updates for the moment and devote a few words to this anniversary. Life has been far from easy for us over these five years. Probably more difficult than either Dave or I have ever admitted to each other, in our efforts to protect each other from our darkest feelings and fears. Marriage for us did not initiate the typical future of a nice home, children, or even a comforting ritual of domesticity. The first 5 years of our marriage have been typified by flux and struggle, but also a brilliant awakening to what marriage really is.
In that way, I think the first five years of our marriage changed who we are. And it is that I celebrate on our anniversary, and it's for that I thank Dave. My idea of marriage has grown from a pretty thing to celebrate with gifts and flowers and simple words of love, to something boundless, bold, alive, and selfless in ways previously unimaginable. As we look toward the next five years I pause to appreciate the many blessings of the first five, when the bond of our marriage was forged to such strength and "love" stood to its full -- astounding -- height. I am so damn happy.
So happy anniversary, Dave. Like the little comic book I made for you concludes, "I'm more in love with you than ever."
3 comments:
At the risk of sounding like the most boring cliche, you guys really are an inspiration. But I think you know that. Happy anniversary to you both (again)!!
xoxoxo
Well...looks like our troubles aren't over yet, and we're not done being tested. Let's see how we survive this next difficult phase. So far Dave is handling it great, but me...not so much.
I keep giving the same speech over and over about how marriage is a team sport. You both win or you both lose. Doesn't look like you need that speech!
Just wait until you get to 7 years. I think that is the desk set anniversary. Really!
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